How Coffee With a Stranger Changed My Life

30 years ago I was already the single mother of a nine-year-old daughter that I had at age 17, and not making great choices in my life. I found myself pregnant once again as a 26 year old, and the father of the baby made it abundantly clear that he wanted no part of that situation.

With my first pregnancy, I felt people were forgiving because I was so young – but now, at 26, having made similar foolish mistakes, there would be no grace offered and no support system. I felt I had no choice but to abort the child.

I made an appointment at Planned Parenthood and was on my way into the clinic. As I drove into the driveway, a woman was standing on the curb praying for those who were going in. I didn’t know she was praying, but as I pulled into the lot my car windows were down because it was hot outside. She made eye contact with me.

She was bold enough to say to me, “If you are about to go in there to have an abortion and you are not absolutely sure it is the right choice, would you please go have a cup of coffee with me first, and then I’ll bring you right back here?” I had no idea why I said yes at the time… I didn’t even like coffee and I really felt like my only option was to abort, but I went with her anyway.


As we sat in the coffee shop, she shared information with me about fetal development – photos of babies at various stages of gestational growth, etc. – and I realized that, at 8 weeks, my child was not just a clump of cells or an unformed blob of tissue. My baby already had a heartbeat!

Praise God, because that day she saved my daughter’s life. Not only did she intercept me from that abortion appointment, she came alongside me and became my support system. The children in her sunday school class collected a mason jar filled with change to support me keeping my baby, the women in her church (in another state!) threw me a baby shower, and she became a friend and a mentor.


We’ve now remained friends for 30 years, despite geographical distance and many life events. I call her my daughter’s “guardian angel.” And, through all that I experienced, God brought that full circle and I now serve as a client advocate at my local crisis pregnancy center.

Today was my morning shift at the Center, and God allowed me to share my story with a client who prayed to accept Christ as her Savior. That is simply the awesome way He works!


We hope this article enlightened and inspired you to stand up for life.

Despite the overturning of Roe v. Wade, abortions are still prevalent in our nation. As a response to the overturning, the media: from the news to entertainment sources to even political figures and celebrities, have pushed abortion as an ongoing agenda, shaping the way this generation thinks and acts. Misinformation is being spread every day, and people are sadly believing the lies.

Our articles and stories aim to tell one thing: the truth.

We know that it is both a blessing and a challenge to understand the reality of abortion, because knowledge incites belief, and belief incites action. But we’re in this together. We believe that we can make abortion unthinkable.

With your support, we look forward to a future where young women are empowered to fight for their own rights: a right to bring life into the world, to be fearless leaders, to be examples of hope, strength, and undeterred resilience. We look forward to a future where life can happen.

If this article strengthened your belief to reach women everywhere with the truth and to let life happen, then please consider helping us extend our reach by making a gift right now. Your gift of just $10 or $20 helps our mission to create a story of hope and empowerment for every woman facing an unplanned pregnancy.

We aim to create a culture that views “pro-life” as equivalent to having empathy and compassion, providing holistic care (before and beyond pregnancy) and education, and most importantly, choosing to speak and act in love. We are pro-life, pro-love, pro-woman, pro-solution.

Don’t just be part of the movement, be part of the solution, and give today.

Shop our Store