Why Adoption is a Comma, but Abortion is a Period

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This story was shared to us via social media by Sandina K.

I was one who felt like I didn’t have a choice. I was trying to get out of a gang and ended up getting pregnant by the leader. I was young, dumb, and irresponsible.

I had an abortion 23 years ago at 18 and promised myself I would never do it again. I didn’t really feel the damage of it until I had a son when I was 24. I started to wonder what my first child would have been like.

In 2010 at age 35, my boyfriend asked me to have a kid with him and I agreed. Three weeks later, he changed his mind, but it was too late. 

After he found out I was pregnant, he became very busy and wouldn’t see me. And while he told me to get an abortion, I remembered my promise. Yet I was already raising my ten year old son by myself with no help at all. I didn’t feel like I could do it again, so I chose adoption. 


It was terribly hard and sometimes still is, but looking back, I wouldn’t change anything. I wish I could tell every woman in my situation that even though adoption is hard, the difference between adoption and abortion is huge.

When I aborted, I put a period at the end of their life. Adoption allowed me to put a comma in hers and a hope to meet her someday soon.

So many pro-life people demonize those of us who’ve had abortions, instead of taking the time to listen to our stories. That changes nothing. On the other hand, Save the Storks has compassion on women and exists to provide them with helpful resources and information

Many people don’t care why women turn to abortion, but like you’ve proven, if you help with the “why” then you can change the outcome.

Abortion doesn’t go without emotional consequences, and they are severe (and not always immediate).

I want to talk to women and encourage them to choose life. I’m now able to say, “I’ve been in your shoes and abortion is not the best option.”

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Save the Storks exists to partner with pregnancy resource centers and give abortion-vulnerable women a choice that will change their lives forever. We partner with pregnancy resource centers all over the nation, providing them with powerful tools and training to more effectively connect with those women in their communities. With the support of people like you, we have built over 50 Stork Buses that reach women near abortion clinics, on college campuses, in rural areas and inner cities. And here’s a statistic you’ll want to share with friends and family: four out of five women who board a Stork Bus, see their baby on the ultrasound and hear the heartbeat, choose life.