Are you afraid to say the word “abortion?”

In today’s society, almost nothing is taboo. From private conversations to social media, to tv and movies, there is almost no topic that isn’t covered or explicitly shown. But there is one topic that is decidedly hidden from the mainstream and even hush hushed inside of churches.

Abortion.

Even hearing that word makes people feel uncomfortable – though it’s been legal in America since 1973.

National Right to Life now estimates, based on this data from the Guttmacher Institute and the U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (CDC), that the total number of abortions since 1973 has reached 58,586,256 and counting.

With statistics that high you would think even more people would be discussing it openly, on both sides of the issue. But for 44 years not much has been said about abortion publicly and even privately, not from advocates, not from those who stand opposed, and not from the pulpit.

Shockingly, it is much more comfortable to ignore over 58 million ended heartbeats than it is to address this issue and even change our minds on the topic.

Why is that?

We are not going to make any assumptions on why post-abortive women choose not to discuss abortions. We stand with foundations and nonprofits who offer post-abortive women non-judgmental spaces to voice how they are feeling. We respect each woman’s personal journey and recovery when it comes to dealing with their own abortions.

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Talking about abortion is uncomfortable. It immediately invokes the need to choose a side: pro-life or pro-choice. But not only are you choosing a side you are “pro,” it seems you are inherently choosing a side you are “against.”

Specifically, saying we are pro-life often invokes the idea that we are anti-women or anti-post-abortive women. We don’t want to be political. But the reality is, our silence is leaving women hurt and abandoned. Publicly stating you are pro-life feels like you may be alienating or judging a friend or family member who is post abortive.

But the truth is, abortion hurts women.

Abortion is a for-profit industry with no aftercare.

  • 64% of post abortive women claimed they felt pressured by others to abort.
  • 65% report symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder.
  • There is 154% higher risk of suicide.
  • Abortion increases a woman’s risk of future miscarriages by 60%

This is not a pro-women movement if the majority of post-abortive women feel pressured, suffer a trauma, are at a higher risk for miscarriage, and a higher risk for suicide.

Abortion is statistically hurting women.

And in church, we have been largely silent. Shockingly, 1 out of 4 Christian women who weekly attend church, turn to abortion. And no one is talking about it. 94% of churches have no pro-life ministry. These women are living under shame, guilt, and fear. They don’t want their secret to be revealed.

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If a woman in your church was to tell you about her abortion, would you be shocked? Would you address it with love and grace?

Our personal desire is to give post-abortive women a voice – to tell the story that only they can tell.


They need to know that there is no condemnation in Christ and they do not have to stay in the bondage of shame and guilt. Instead, they can walk free in redemption because of the blood of Jesus.

We refuse to abandon women at any point, whether they choose life or choose abortion. We believe that the way to win the cause for life is not by protesting, not defunding, but giving women all their options. Instead, we want it to become unthinkable.

So let’s open the discussion. Let’s truly love women, even if its hard and uncomfortable. Let’s refuse to abandon her at any point in her pregnancy, even if she decided to end it. Let’s show her love and compassion so that she in turn, can be more vocal so that more women would hear the truth about abortion.

If women told the truth of their hurt and were met with love, more women would speak out. And if the truth of the pain of abortion was public and the resources provided by pregnancy resource centers were more well-funded, abortion would be unthinkable. So let’s not be afraid to say the word “abortion.”

Ashley Noelle

Over the past decade, Ashley Noelle has been a Conference Director, Writer, and Ministry Leader while raising three daughters as a police officer’s wife. She’s a southern girl living in California with a Saturday night personality and Sunday morning heart. Whether it’s gathering for supper club, working full-time, raising children, homeschooling, or standing on stage speaking life into others, she believes all women have a unique passion, platform, and purpose. Ashley is fiercely passionate about encouraging women to find their voice and walk in freedom. Connect with her on instagram!