By Charlotte Pence Bond
Mother’s Day is a testament to the beauty of mothers and what they bring to our lives.
When I was growing up, Mother’s Day was always a big deal in our house. It was a time to take a moment and thank my mom for all she did for us throughout the year. We served her breakfast in bed while we opened cards and homemade gifts. Now that I am a mother, I appreciate the sacrifices my mom made to support me, beginning when I was born, and continuing into my adult years. My first Mother’s Day as a mom was a special one. My mom sent me a gift to mark the occasion, which I cherish every time I see it in my daughter’s room. But every Mother’s Day since that first one has been special, too – and I know every future Mother’s Day will bring with it new memories on which to reflect.
No matter the age of her children, a mother can be a steady hand and a voice of comfort and truth in difficult times. To be a mother is a fantastic responsibility and an honor. Anyone who takes on the role of a mother should be celebrated on Mother’s Day.
Motherhood Comes in Many Forms
I hope that Mother’s Day is a day that excites women, whether or not they have children. For those who have miscarried, it is still a day for them. They have carried their children and are mothers. It is a day for aspiring mothers to celebrate the mothers in their lives — whether their mother or their friends. Watching a friend become a mother is fantastic and something we can all appreciate before we have children. Even if a woman has embryos waiting to implant through in vitro fertilization, she is a mother, and those are her children. If she has tragically lost a child, she is a mother.
If someone takes on the role of a mother, as an adoptive parent or a stepparent, they should be celebrated, as well. This day also belongs to birth mothers who put their children up for adoption. While it is a difficult decision for those mothers, I hope they know they deserve celebration on this special day for choosing life for their children and selflessly entrusting them to the care of another loving family.
The Journey of Motherhood
I think Mother’s Day should not only be a day when we celebrate mothers but also when we acknowledge the importance and joy of motherhood, along with the lessons and challenges it brings. Motherhood is a journey, one which we will never finish. In my few years of motherhood, I have learned that as my children grow, I also grow. As a young mom, I often make the mistake of thinking my children will stay the same age forever, but they change every day. In all seasons of their lives, I follow along with appreciation that I get to be their mom.
A Day to Celebrate, Even Through Grief
Mother’s Day can be difficult for those who desire to get pregnant or who are missing their mothers who have passed away. I hope that for those who have lost a mother, this day is an even deeper celebration for them. I hope they take time to remember the beautiful moments and lessons that their mothers passed on. The fact that we miss those who have passed away is a testament to the presence they were – and still are – for us.
Honoring Every Mother
Motherhood is a beautiful challenge, but it has been undervalued recently. If any woman is willing to take on the vital role of being a mother to someone, her work should be seen and celebrated. The choice to become a mother is a selfless and beautiful, and all those who do so should be acknowledged on this special day.
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